{"id":1243,"date":"2025-07-16T20:30:40","date_gmt":"2025-07-16T20:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/?p=1243"},"modified":"2026-06-01T15:25:56","modified_gmt":"2026-06-01T15:25:56","slug":"narcissistic-traits-in-males","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/","title":{"rendered":"Narcissistic Traits in Males: 12 Disturbing Signs You Can\u2019t Ignore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>(COVER)Narcissistic Traits in Males: 12 Disturbing Signs You Can\u2019t IgnoreBeautiful but dangerous\u2014just like narcissistic charm. Approach with caution. Ever<i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0felt like a man in your life is manipulating, controlling, or draining you emotionally? Ever wonder if you&#8217;re dealing with narcissistic traits in males or just a jerk.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissistic traits in males can be compared to the saying \u201chaving a big head\u201d but on steroids. There is actually a spectrum. You are not a narcissist if you think you\u2019re good at what you do. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are demonstrating narcissistic traits as a male, if you think you\u2019re the best, untouchable, no one is better than you and everyone should be thankful that you graced them with your appearance.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, that sounds like an extreme range, but you need to know the signs of when a big head becomes an unhealthy abusive situation, with displays of the male narcissist traits and if you&#8217;re in the midst of the manipulation you may not see the actual signs until it\u2019s too late.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;ll be walking you through the 12 disturbing traits of narcissistic traits in males, so you can be alert if these traits start to develop in a male in your life.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/are-narcissists-evil\/\">Also Check out: Are Narcissists Evil or Products of Their Past?<\/a><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#IMAGE\" >(IMAGE)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#12_Narcissistic_Traits_in_Males\" >12 Narcissistic Traits in Males<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#1_Grandiose_Sense_of_Self-Importance\" >1. Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#2_Lack_of_Empathy_Cold_and_Emotionally_Detached\" >2. Lack of Empathy: Cold and Emotionally Detached<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#3_Constant_Need_for_Validation_and_Attention\" >3. Constant Need for Validation and Attention<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#4_Manipulative_and_Controlling_Behavior\" >4. Manipulative and Controlling Behavior<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#5_A_Deep_Sense_of_Entitlement\" >5. A Deep Sense of Entitlement<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#6_Frequent_Lying_and_Deception\" >6. Frequent Lying and Deception<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#IMAGE-2\" >(IMAGE)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#7_Exploitative_Behavior_Using_Others_for_Personal_Gain\" >7. Exploitative Behavior: Using Others for Personal Gain<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#8_Extreme_Sensitivity_to_Criticism_But_No_Problem_Criticizing_Others\" >8. Extreme Sensitivity to Criticism (But No Problem Criticizing Others)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#9_A_Constant_Need_to_Be_the_Center_of_Attention\" >9. A Constant Need to Be the Center of Attention<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#10_Relationship_Instability_and_Lack_of_Commitment\" >10. Relationship Instability and Lack of Commitment<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#11_Aggressive_Passive-Aggressive_or_Controlling_Rage\" >11. Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive or Controlling Rage<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#12_Jealousy_Envy_and_an_Obsession_with_Competition\" >12. Jealousy, Envy, and an Obsession with Competition<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#IMAGE-3\" >(IMAGE)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-17\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#Coping_Strategies_to_Protect_Yourself\" >Coping Strategies to Protect Yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-18\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#IMAGE-4\" >(IMAGE)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-19\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissistic-traits-in-males\/#Final_Thoughts\" >Final Thoughts<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"IMAGE\"><\/span>(IMAGE)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Narcissistic_Traits_in_Males\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12 Narcissistic Traits in Males<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Grandiose_Sense_of_Self-Importance\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ok movie reference sorry. I call this Big Ern syndrome. If you have ever seen the movie Kingpin (1996) You know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This movie demonstrates exactly what narcissistic traits in males looks like, ok they are not all bald and bowlers, but I think you get this idea. He thinks he\u2019s better than anyone, everyone wants to be him. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">His superiority complex is a perfect example of grandiose sense of self-importance. One of the narcissistic traits in males, the way he believes everyone adores and loves him and he does no wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist is in constant search and need of admiration and superiority because they know they are nothing. They are built by the empath that empowers them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ok I know this narcissistic trait in males is hard to see. But do they take a romantic weekend and turn it into a celebration of them and all they have accomplished. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or in a meeting about one thing, talk about all their contributions to a project. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">my personal favorite, had a rough day, trying to talk about it, it\u2019s nothing you should see what they went through. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I mean they might have stubbed their toe, while you were in the ER with a panic attack they couldn\u2019t right away rule out a heart attack.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>(IMAGE)<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Lack_of_Empathy_Cold_and_Emotionally_Detached\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Lack of Empathy: Cold and Emotionally Detached<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most common narcissistic traits in males is they lack empathy. They use the words but have no clue what feelings actually are. This leads them to not being able to read feelings or understand them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are trying to talk to a male narcissist about feelings and you receive a robotic response, this would be a subtle narcissistic trait in males.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The clear sign that you can see the narcissistic traits in a male is actually in the heat of an emotional event, they will appear indifferent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They want it to appear like they are in control of their emotions. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But in reality, their emotions are dead, and they truly do not have feelings like everyone else.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I showed emotions, I was advised that I was being a child. A child that cries when a friend or family member passes on. This narcissistic trait in a male is what can emotionally crush you if you don&#8217;t spot it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist will let you know you are being childish when you have emotions. This invalidation is a mark of narcissistic traits in males; it&#8217;s the stunted emotional growth shining through.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Constant_Need_for_Validation_and_Attention\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Constant Need for Validation and Attention<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One overlooked narcissistic trait in males is their complete lack of emotional awareness. They have a constant desire for admiration and external approval and desire. But only they are supposed to have feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The biggest blow to a narcissist is that someone thinks badly of them. They are superior in their mind, this emotional disconnect is a core trait of narcissistic personality disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a narcissist is not the center of attention or not being given their supply, they will make it known that this is not acceptable. This is when you see an \u201cemotional\u201d side to a narcissist. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is a childish emotion but none the less they will show you a perfect example of a narcissistic trait in males.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know how they say out of a child&#8217;s mouth. The way a child will just walk up with pure innocence and ask a silly question in the middle of an adult conversation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The narcissist will do the same thing but without the innocence factor. They will break into conversations almost as if they are saying. Me. Me. Me. See me!!!!! Pay attention to me!!!!!!!!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>(IMAGE)<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Manipulative_and_Controlling_Behavior\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Manipulative and Controlling Behavior<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you speak to these men especially one displaying clear narcissistic traits in males&#8217; signs, you know that the narcissist is going to use the words coming out of your mouth but most likely in a different way. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one of narcissistic traits in males, they can literally take what you say, twist it, use it in their gaslighting and then emotionally manipulate you into thinking your words came out differently than what they actually did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By taking your words and twisting them in just the right way, they have changed the full meaning of what you said. By using this technique, they can now make themselves the victim and you the predator, instead of the true way things happened.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_A_Deep_Sense_of_Entitlement\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. A Deep Sense of Entitlement<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist thinks they are a gift from heaven above. The world owes them just for being there. They truly feel that they deserve special treatment for their \u201ccontributions\u201d i.e. showing up and stealing the spotlight.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Their double standards though are another alarming narcissistic trait in males. If you are going to receive an award, they feel honestly that you are being given this award for being with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is not what you did, you are getting awarded for being their pet and they feel they are the ones that did everything to get you that award.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The entitlement they feel fuels this narcissistic trait in the male though. They convince themselves that they are owed everything and their sense of entitlement circles with their superiority complex, knowing in their mind they are a gift to all and should be treated as a King. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Frequent_Lying_and_Deception\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Frequent Lying and Deception<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist has no problem with reframing the truth. This could be exaggerating an accomplishment, to bending the truth, a little white lie, or outright straight up lying. This is a display of the narcissistic traits in men. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will eventually believe this lie as the truth. So, stopping it early is key. But be aware of the other narcissistic trait in males lack of empathy. They may inflict pain if their ego is damaged.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have to create these false narratives to ensure their control over their supply and their sense of self-importance and entitlement. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They need to spin the story that makes them the greatest of all time. It can\u2019t just be in their mind. They need to be in everyone&#8217;s mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you start to notice the truth is not something that is in conversations on a regular basis, you may want to start keeping a journal. Remember the narcissistic trait of manipulation. Keep your facts written down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are keeping your journal for you to compare your notes of what actually happened and what you are now being told about what happened. I also encourage recording conversations. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Again, not for the Narc. This is for you. You are not crazy, yes, they did that, said that, and now changed the narrative. And reminding yourself helps you to heal.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"IMAGE-2\"><\/span>(IMAGE)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Exploitative_Behavior_Using_Others_for_Personal_Gain\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. Exploitative Behavior: Using Others for Personal Gain<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist has a need in them, they will take advantage of people emotionally, financially or socially to fill their needs. They are always looking for the next best thing, and you are just a tool that they are using to get there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To a narcissist a relationship is more of a transaction. The timing depends on what they are getting and if their needs are being met. You are a supply to them not a partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist will literally go to an event with you, when you are getting recognized. They can make the entire night about them to where your recognition is so overshadowed you can believe you were wrong for the recognition you received, and feel like your narc was the one who should have recognized.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Extreme_Sensitivity_to_Criticism_But_No_Problem_Criticizing_Others\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8. Extreme Sensitivity to Criticism (But No Problem Criticizing Others)<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you know how perfect the Narcissist is in their mind. Understand that if you attempt to critique their actions you will be met with rage and a temper tantrum. The narcissist is so in their own head that they can not process the truth.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even constructive comments can be met with this same anger and even a silent treatment. They feel they are perfect. Nothing needs to be changed in them. This is a you problem, remember they believe they are perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The strangest thing is if you give them feedback they get defensive, but they will be the first one to point out the exact same thing to someone else. They just can\u2019t see flaws in themselves..<\/span><\/p>\n<p>(IMAGE)<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_A_Constant_Need_to_Be_the_Center_of_Attention\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9. A Constant Need to Be the Center of Attention<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are interacting with a true narcissist you will see the signs of them hijacking conversations or getting the spotlight onto them. You will also see this in their social media habits. Either counting each and every like or refusing to post on social media in fear that they will not get the love and admiration they know they are entitled to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They crave the attention and spotlight at all times. If they see a supply of energy they can extract they are on it like a child seeking a piece of candy. It becomes like an addiction to being the center of the universe.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they are posting on social media you can see the vanity in their posting and they are watching to make sure everyone they know is acknowledging them, admiring them, and they will know who is giving them what they need and who isn\u2019t and it will be known if you forget to like or comment on a post.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Relationship_Instability_and_Lack_of_Commitment\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10. Relationship Instability and Lack of Commitment<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the beginning of a relationship\/transaction with a narcissist you will be love bombed to the point you think you are the center of the world. Then as time goes on and there is new supply available you will become just someone. Then the discard you becomes the crazy devil who lies. The strange thing is the new supply will eventually have the same story line.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A long term meaningful relationship is a struggle for a narcissist and if you can handle the abuse they will stay with you as long as you supply them. They checked out the first time they got attention from somewhere else, now you are the constant supply while they are getting other supply from other places.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the beginning you were a feat they wanted to conquer. Once they conquered you and had control. You became the toy from Christmas that was everything they wanted. And when they are done with you they put you on the shelf for when they need you again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>I explain one of their tactics here: <a href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/narcissist-and-t\u2026silent-treatment\/ \u200e\">Narcissist and the Silent Treatment: How to Recognize, Respond and Reclaim Your Voice<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Aggressive_Passive-Aggressive_or_Controlling_Rage\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11. Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive or Controlling Rage<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As I reference it as the temper tantrum. The actual name of their outburst is narcissistic rage. But I like temper tantrums better, it seems more fitting and helps to lighten up what you are going through if you are on the receiving end of this treatment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissist rage is really the extreme form and combination of tactics that literally is every tool they have at its sharpest all coming at you. They will use the silent treatment, then guilt trip you, emotionally withdraw, sometimes even scream and shout, all the time embedding in your thoughts how everything in the world is your fault in some way shape or form.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These outbursts can destroy you emotionally and mentally and can even go to the extent of physical harm. Mine guided me through a suicide attempt, I thought he was just being helpful.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Jealousy_Envy_and_an_Obsession_with_Competition\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12. Jealousy, Envy, and an Obsession with Competition<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I like to compare a narcissist to a kindergartener in their jealousy. They will see that Tommy has a nicer car so now Tommy is the enemy. It doesn\u2019t matter the relationship with Tommy, all that matters is they need to be superior to Tommy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now if Jimmy gets a promotion or a form of success that the narcissist doesn\u2019t have. This is now the new goal, they need to be the most successful. You always have to remember that they in their mind are the greatest of all time and no one should be recognized more than them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you get an award or a shiny start and they do not, know that you will need a backup plan to your success. They will make it their life\u2019s mission to sabotage, undermine, or just belittle the person who dares to take the spotlight from them. That is just selfish to succeed beyond them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"IMAGE-3\"><\/span>(IMAGE)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Coping_Strategies_to_Protect_Yourself\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Coping Strategies to Protect Yourself<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set Boundaries and stick to them, use the word \u201cNO\u201d it is ok to say even if it hurts their feelings you are protecting yours. And when you say it, mean it and stick to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Above all know the narcissistic traits in males so you are aware of what to watch for. <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0are in defense mode when it comes to your thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And any thought you are having of giving in take the time to analyze it and determine if it is the manipulation or fact. Your feelings count as a fact. Each time you fall into one of their manipulations traps you are stepping further in, and it will get harder to escape.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best thing you can do for yourself is to go no contact. It\u2019s the detox of your mind. And clear the narcissistic traits of males that you have been subjected to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine that each time you are abused it takes a little piece of your brain and moves it. Your body and mind need time to heal from what you have gone through, and each contact will take that piece of your mind you\u2019ve repaired already.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do not try to escape on your own. Use resources like a therapist, coach, or support group, even social media. This is a battle in a large war and you need reinforcements to keep your mind clear and focused on healing.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"IMAGE-4\"><\/span>(IMAGE)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Final Thoughts<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The 12 narcissistic traits in males are again:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Lack of Empathy: Cold and Emotionally Detached<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Constant Need for Validation and Attention<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Manipulative and Controlling Behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A Deep Sense of Entitlement<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Frequent Lying and Deception<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Exploitative Behavior: Using Others for Personal Gain<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Extreme Sensitivity to Criticism (But No Problem Criticizing Others)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A Constant Need to Be the Center of Attention<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Relationship Instability and Lack of Commitment<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive or Controlling Rage<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Jealousy, Envy, and an Obsession with Competition<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are strong enough, and you are not crazy. That is what the narcissist wants you to believe because that is how they maintain their control over you. You have the strength to break free. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may need some guidance, but you definitely have the strength. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I mean you\u2019ve been abused by the narcissistic traits in males your entire relationship, and you made it through that, now you are going to use this superpower you have in you to make yourself happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to win against narcissistic traits in males is to walk away and never look back. And enjoy your happiness you\u2019ve earned it. And always be aware of the narcissistic traits in males:\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you recognize these signs or feel trapped in by narcissistic traits in males, please know that you&#8217;re not alone \u2013 and it&#8217;s not your fault.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your healing journey matters, and support is available. Visit themarymcconnell.com for free educational resources, recovery tools, and a community of survivors who understand exactly what you&#8217;re going through.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For immediate help: \u2022 National Domestic Violence Hotline:<\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> | Call 1-800-799-7233 \u2022 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 \u2022 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your voice matters. If you have additional resources that have helped you, please share them in the comments below \u2013 together we can create a network of support for everyone who needs it.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you dealt with a narcissist? Your story could help someone else recognize the signs or feel less alone. Share your experience in the comments if you feel comfortable doing so.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: You deserve love that feels safe, not chaotic. You deserve respect, not manipulation. You deserve healing, and it&#8217;s possible. \ud83d\udc99<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Looking for more guidance on narcissism and recovery from narcissistic abuse? Explore our collection of expert articles on recognizing toxic patterns, healing, and reclaiming your confidence. 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