{"id":1791,"date":"2025-10-31T13:55:14","date_gmt":"2025-10-31T13:55:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/?p=1791"},"modified":"2026-04-11T18:13:36","modified_gmt":"2026-04-11T18:13:36","slug":"long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding and Overcoming the Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Abuse"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-2797\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/Copy-of-Blogs-Cover-Photos-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2240\" height=\"1260\" \/>Long term effects of narcissistic abuse on a person is like an acid that slowly eats away at who you are and what you believe. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Long term effects of narcissistic abuse eat away parts of your mind, your heart and your soul. It can take decades to regrow what the narcissistic acid eats away from its victims.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Understanding the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse is crucial for recovery.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most of the time the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse are overlooked. Everyone is so relieved to be out of the situation, we forget what we have Long term effects of narcissistic abuse<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We may have escaped, but it takes years to emotionally recover from the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if you haven&#8217;t escaped the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse are still compounding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-4\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recognizing the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse helps in acknowledging the deep scars left behind<\/span>.<\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-5\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are so much stronger than you even know. Walking away takes more courage than can ever be given credit for. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-5\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are a fighter and you are smarter than the narcissist has ever given you credit for. Yes I know this is hard to believe but it\u2019s true. Let me explain.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-6\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1795 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/18df6600-3921-4bc8-bcf2-cbbc7c65c89f.jpg\" alt=\"a blue brain with glowing veins\" width=\"1013\" height=\"675\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/18df6600-3921-4bc8-bcf2-cbbc7c65c89f.jpg 1013w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/18df6600-3921-4bc8-bcf2-cbbc7c65c89f-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/18df6600-3921-4bc8-bcf2-cbbc7c65c89f-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/18df6600-3921-4bc8-bcf2-cbbc7c65c89f-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1013px) 100vw, 1013px\" \/><\/h4>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-7\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does narcissistic abuse do to you?<\/span><\/h4>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-8\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissistic abuse is emotional, mental, financial, verbal, sexual, violent. Any type or combination of abuse that\u2019s intent is to dominate and control the victim. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-8\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is the process of demeaning and devaluing someone to the point they feel indebted for the abuse they are allowed to receive. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-8\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Long term effects of narcissistic abuse can manifest in various aspects of life. Anything from shopping to going to court. Anything can be a trigger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-9\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ok that is a dramatic explanation but in truth it is the pattern of a person who love bombs to draw you in, devalues you to make you feel less of a person, discards you making you like <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-9\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Then repeats the cycle. Lessening your value each time. Causing Long term effects of narcissistic abuse, in the process, you know life long damage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-10\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists always think they are perfect, they will only admit fault if it results in sympathy and attention. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-10\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone needs to know how amazing they are and they feel they are entitled and deserving of everything. The word no, is not an option to them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-11\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Victims are programmed in a relationship to see the narcissist as the superior being the one in control and the only one capable of decision making. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-11\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are to challenge their authority you will be punished usually with the silent treatment. Causing Long term effects of narcissistic abuse with PTSD and CPTSD.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-12\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists are masters at rewording and rephrasing statements and events. They are masters of using the shiny object technique. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-12\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may start an argument over here between two people to take the focus off of them and whatever they are about to called out.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-13\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1796 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/950904b9-79b2-4833-acd4-165ad48823b9.jpg\" alt=\"a heart shaped stone with flowers\" width=\"1013\" height=\"675\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/950904b9-79b2-4833-acd4-165ad48823b9.jpg 1013w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/950904b9-79b2-4833-acd4-165ad48823b9-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/950904b9-79b2-4833-acd4-165ad48823b9-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/950904b9-79b2-4833-acd4-165ad48823b9-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1013px) 100vw, 1013px\" \/><\/h2>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/#What_are_the_signs_that_someone_has_suffered_from_narcissistic_abuse_And_the_Long-Term_Effects_of_Narcissistic_Abuse\" >What are the signs that someone has suffered from narcissistic abuse? And the Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Abuse<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/#Do_you_ever_fully_recover_from_narcissistic_abuse\" >Do you ever fully recover from narcissistic abuse?\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/#Steps_to_Recovery_%E2%80%93_Reclaiming_Your_Life\" >Steps to Recovery &#8211; Reclaiming Your Life<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/#Moving_Forward_Reclaiming_Your_Identity\" >Moving Forward: Reclaiming Your Identity<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/long-term-effects-of-narcissistic-abuse\/#Final_Thoughts\" >Final Thoughts<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-14\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_are_the_signs_that_someone_has_suffered_from_narcissistic_abuse_And_the_Long-Term_Effects_of_Narcissistic_Abuse\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the signs that someone has suffered from narcissistic abuse? And the Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Abuse<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-15\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. The Psychological and Emotional Toll<\/span><\/h4>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-16\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you may not experience all symptoms to a full extent, be aware that these symptoms are very common. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-16\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was personally diagnosed with these and others after abuse and from personal experience I am glad I was aware of these to be able to discuss them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-17\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">C-PTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder): This is a Long term effects of narcissistic abuse. It is flashbacks, nightmares, Deja vu. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-17\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, you developed coping maneuvers during abuse, and these are fall backs but catch yourself and find a new way to handle it.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-17\">Burying the <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Long term effects of narcissistic abuse will only allow it to remain in you. Take the time to work through each and every trigger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-18\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anxiety &amp; Depression: You have been put down and mentally put through the ringer. It\u2019s hard to tell up from down, what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-18\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are going to feel nervous and anxious, everything is new and it\u2019s a good new. The Long term effects of narcissistic abuse make you believe your abusers approval for the happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-18\">Guess what gorgeous you don&#8217;t you are allowed to be as happy as you want. Laugh until you spit milk out of your nose. You deserve it.<\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-19\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The depression is because you are leaving what is familiar and comfortable, like your blanket when you were a child.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-19\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> But this blanket (the narc) was coated in fleas and you had to get rid of it. You\u2019d still be sad and that\u2019s ok to mourn what was good in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-20\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Low Self-Esteem &amp; Self-Doubt: The narcissist has had to demean you the entire time to get you to believe you were down to their level. Part of healing from the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-20\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now you are starting to realize you are way above them, but you think you\u2019re at their level. It takes time but you will find your balance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-21\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shame &amp; Guilt: We as victims have been taught that only the narcissist\u2019s feelings and needs matter. Another symptom of the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-21\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now all of a sudden we are able to address our own needs and we were taught that we should feel shame for this, but we should be proud to take care of ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-22\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. The Cognitive Impact: How Narcissistic Abuse Rewires the Brain<\/span><\/h4>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-23\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gaslighting &amp; Cognitive Dissonance: This is why you feel confused and not able to trust your own judgement. You have been led on so many manipulated journeys throughout the relationship, some days you\u2019re not even sure who did what.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-24\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Decision-Making Difficulties: During your relationship can you recall one decision you made that you were told was a good one? I\u2019m sorry and not one that they took credit for in public. This made you feel like you couldn\u2019t make decisions. But it was you all along, they just take credit for the good ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-25\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Negative Thought Patterns: You were told during your abuse that you were\u00a0 not worth it. It\u2019s your job now to remind yourself you are more than worth it. Your narcissist wasn\u2019t worth you is the real fact.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-26\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. The Physical Consequences of Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse<\/span><\/h4>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-27\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chronic Stress &amp; Fatigue: Do you ever notice how you feel constantly on edge or just worn out? It&#8217;s almost like a cycle. We were trained to be in survival mode with the narcissist. Our body is doing its natural response, resting and then waiting for orders.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-28\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Autoimmune Disorders &amp; Health Issues: Clinical studies are now linking immune disorders and other heath issues to being an effect of narcissistic abuse. The prolonged drain on the body by the emotions is actually causing physical damage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-29\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sleep Disturbances &amp; Nightmares: This links back to PTSD and CPTSD. What you went through is not ok and you are going to relive it but realize you are watching it, not living it this time, and you are learning from it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 data-rm-block-id=\"block-30\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Relationship Struggles After Narcissistic Abuse<\/span><\/h4>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-31\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s going to happen you are going to have to trust again and yes it is going to take time. And that is ok. It\u2019s ok to be cautious. You&#8217;ve been hurt and manipulated. You are expecting it to happen again and it might be cautious but learn to trust again for yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-32\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The hard truth is you will fall for the same toxic personality. It is what feels like love because it\u2019s what you thought love was for so long. That\u2019s not your fault but if it feels familiar, run.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-33\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I personally best friended a narcissist and then dated and thought I was in love with one, within the first year after leaving my marriage. Not my proudest moments but definitely learned some major lessons.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-34\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you leave abuse you go into one of two directions either 1. I can do this all on my own and don&#8217;t want anyone. Or 2. I need you (friend\/family member) by my side and I\u2019ll take care of you. You will probably ultimately experience both in your healing journey.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-35\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do_you_ever_fully_recover_from_narcissistic_abuse\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you ever fully recover from narcissistic abuse?\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-36\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1797 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/715d0021-6032-4cc4-b7ae-bbcd2a3f4ecf.jpg\" alt=\"a woman standing in a garden\" width=\"1013\" height=\"675\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/715d0021-6032-4cc4-b7ae-bbcd2a3f4ecf.jpg 1013w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/715d0021-6032-4cc4-b7ae-bbcd2a3f4ecf-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/715d0021-6032-4cc4-b7ae-bbcd2a3f4ecf-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/715d0021-6032-4cc4-b7ae-bbcd2a3f4ecf-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1013px) 100vw, 1013px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-37\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Steps_to_Recovery_%E2%80%93_Reclaiming_Your_Life\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Steps to Recovery &#8211; Reclaiming Your Life<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-38\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you can recognize and identify the toxic traits of the abuse, that is the first step in reclaiming your life. You know you can see the red flags that you thought were just a part of a relationship. This is a huge first step. Be proud.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-39\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After what you\u2019ve been through and as you work through things you are able to set boundaries. These are healthy. It\u2019s like building a fence around yourself for your protection, I\u2019m not saying build a wall, but a picket fence is good.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-40\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are so many different therapies now and I think each person needs to find what works best for them. I personally did CBT. DBT, NLP, and Hypnotherapy which ultimately lead me to become a hypnotherapist.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-41\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I would not say there is one therapy that works for everyone. I think each person needs to follow what is helping them the most towards feeling like themselves again and feeling a sense of confidence. Looking into everything. It\u2019s only weird if it doesn\u2019t work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-42\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most important part of healing is self healing. Journaling, meditation, listening to a playlist. Whatever it is for you that helps you work through your experiences is what you should be doing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-43\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the biggest game changers is a support group and building a community of like minded individuals whether it\u2019s online or in person. Finding people that understand you and your experiences helps to heal.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-44\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Moving_Forward_Reclaiming_Your_Identity\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moving Forward: Reclaiming Your Identity<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-45\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1798 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/aa04dc03-798e-4133-85fa-f967fee908b1.jpg\" alt=\"a woman standing on a cliff with flowers and a horse\" width=\"857\" height=\"571\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/aa04dc03-798e-4133-85fa-f967fee908b1.jpg 857w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/aa04dc03-798e-4133-85fa-f967fee908b1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/aa04dc03-798e-4133-85fa-f967fee908b1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/aa04dc03-798e-4133-85fa-f967fee908b1-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 857px) 100vw, 857px\" \/><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-46\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first step to reclaiming your identity is to find your identity. You have been the identity of the narcissist, the other half they have controlled all decisions. It&#8217;s time for you to start making decisions. Small ones like too many pillows on the bed just because you want to.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-47\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It takes time to find a healthy loving relationship. And give it time. You do not want to jump back into what you just got out of so be cautious and take it slow. And study up on red flags. If you see one sign you walk away now. Don\u2019t try to justify it. That\u2019s how it starts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-48\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will see yourself grow and start to overcome and forget the past and put it in it\u2019s place \u201cHistory\u201d You\u2019ve learned from it and now it\u2019s time to start celebrating you and all the personal growth you are going through. Embrace it and celebrate you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-49\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1800 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/b0f3a5a3-f2ab-4811-99d4-fff230137130.jpg\" alt=\"a broken glass with a light coming out of it\" width=\"931\" height=\"621\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/b0f3a5a3-f2ab-4811-99d4-fff230137130.jpg 931w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/b0f3a5a3-f2ab-4811-99d4-fff230137130-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/b0f3a5a3-f2ab-4811-99d4-fff230137130-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/b0f3a5a3-f2ab-4811-99d4-fff230137130-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 931px) 100vw, 931px\" \/><\/h2>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-49\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Final Thoughts<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-50\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019ve already done the hardest part, you started looking at the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse and realizing your situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-50\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you left the narcissist, now you are beginning to understand what you\u2019ve been through and what steps to take to move towards healing. You are so much stronger and smarter than you even know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-50\">And if you haven&#8217;t left yet and are just scratching the surface, realize the <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Long term effects of narcissistic abuse. They take years to recover from the sooner you leave the better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-51\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understand the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse and continue on a path of self-healing and self-discovery and follow what you think is the right decision.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-51\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It is up to you now and only you. Do what makes you happy. And do what you need to do to recover from the Long term effects of narcissistic abuse<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you recognize these signs or feel trapped in a narcissistic relationship, please know that you&#8217;re not alone \u2013 and it&#8217;s not your fault.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your healing journey matters, and support is available. Visit themarymcconnell.com for free educational resources, recovery tools, and a community of survivors who understand exactly what you&#8217;re going through.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For immediate help: \u2022 National Domestic Violence Hotline:<\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> | Ca<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll 1-800-799-7233 \u2022 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 \u2022 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your voice matters. If you have additional resources that have helped you, please share them in the comments below \u2013 together we can create a network of support for everyone who needs it.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you dealt with a narcissist? Your story could help someone else recognize the signs or feel less alone. Share your experience in the comments if you feel comfortable doing so.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: You deserve love that feels safe, not chaotic. You deserve respect, not manipulation. You deserve healing, and it&#8217;s possible. \ud83d\udc99<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-54\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Looking for more guidance on narcissism and recovery from narcissistic abuse? Explore our collection of expert articles on recognizing toxic patterns, healing, and reclaiming your confidence. 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