{"id":2192,"date":"2026-02-09T11:42:50","date_gmt":"2026-02-09T11:42:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/?p=2192"},"modified":"2026-04-11T18:12:23","modified_gmt":"2026-04-11T18:12:23","slug":"why-do-narcissists-lie-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/why-do-narcissists-lie-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do Narcissists Lie? Reasons That You Need to Know"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-2794\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/Re-EDIT-68.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2240\" height=\"1260\" \/><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If you\u2019ve ever caught a narcissist in a lie and wondered, \u2018Why lie about <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?\u2019\u2014you\u2019re not alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are living in a constant mix of truth and lies the whole world becomes confusing. You never know what you can believe and what you can not. You are having to constantly question everything, to the point you become paranoid.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-4\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist does just tell big lies or little lies, they have a variety, and why do narcissists lie? It\u2019s not like the truth will not be uncovered at some point. If you\u2019ve been exposed to this pattern you also need to know how to protect yourself. From the manipulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/why-do-narcissists-lie-2\/#Understanding_Narcissistic_Personality_Traits_Related_to_Lying\" >Understanding Narcissistic Personality Traits Related to Lying<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/why-do-narcissists-lie-2\/#Why_Do_Narcissists_Lie_7_Key_Reasons_You_Need_to_Know\" >Why Do Narcissists Lie? 7 Key Reasons You Need to Know<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/why-do-narcissists-lie-2\/#Types_of_Lies_Narcissists_Commonly_Use\" >Types of Lies Narcissists Commonly Use<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/why-do-narcissists-lie-2\/#How_to_Protect_Yourself_from_a_Lying_Narcissist\" >How to Protect Yourself from a Lying Narcissist<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-5\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Understanding_Narcissistic_Personality_Traits_Related_to_Lying\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding Narcissistic Personality Traits Related to Lying<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-6\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2197\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person sitting near a cracked mirror.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-7\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1 Why Lying Is a Core Behavior<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-8\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist has a false self image that they are perfect and above everyone else. How else can they get others to understand how perfect they are if they don\u2019t lie about how perfect they are? They have to get us to believe they are the ideal partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-9\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once they\u2019ve lied to get the partner they need they need to gain control and then maintain superiority in the relationship, they can\u2019t do this with facts and truths they have to lie about reality so that their supply will believe how amazing the narc is and be submissive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-10\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So in reality a narcissist lies to establish and maintain their superiority complex, that they have created in their minds, and now need their supply and others to also believe how super hero like the narcissist believes they are and also believe it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-11\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Do_Narcissists_Lie_7_Key_Reasons_You_Need_to_Know\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why Do Narcissists Lie? 7 Key Reasons You Need to Know<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-12\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2198\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Two speech bubbles, one clear, one dark.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-1.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-13\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. To Maintain Their Idealized Self-Image<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-14\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist will spend their last dime to buy a new shirt or shoes or something as an extravagant gift for someone to show how superior they are, or claim things they have never done to seem more interesting and desired.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-15\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It works because of the techniques they use to imbed these thoughts into victims minds, I mean really who is actually expecting someone to lie about how successful they are when you personally know them as a friend or romantic partner. . <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-16\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist can\u2019t handle the ideas of a flaw or imperfection being seen or revealed in them. If the person you are asking the question \u201cwhy do narcissists lie\u201d about, can\u2019t accept their true identity, this can be a red flag to look at what they have done and see if there is a pattern of lies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-17\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2199\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Two hands playing chess, thoughtful background.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-2.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-18\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. To Manipulate and Control Others<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-19\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever felt guilty for something you didn\u2019t even cause? This is referred to as guilt tripping. The narcissist can lie well enough that you feel guilty for what they did, that ultimately hurt you and you feel guilty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-20\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It works because with all the lies they cause so much confusion you don\u2019t even know how you should feel, let alone how you actually feel, so when they tell you how you feel, you almost feel relief from the confusion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-21\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they start to distort reality into their own version of what happened and you can start to see the change in the story&#8217;s details, that is your red flag warning. They are changing the narrative of what happened, blame shifting and now have control of the narrative of what happened.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-22\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2200\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Man adjusting shirt in mirror.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-3.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-23\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To Avoid Accountability<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-24\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a narcissist is caught in the act of wrong doing the only option they know of is to lie and blame someone else. They have to dodge the consequences at all costs, so lying is the simple way out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-25\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will be so convincing and change small miniscule details of what happened, they change enough that the blame gets shifted but most of the facts are still the same. By making small changes it doesn\u2019t raise a lot of questions to the accuracy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-26\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you see your narcissist changing details in a story and starting to shift the blame see this as your red flag warning that the narrative of the true events is going to keep changing until it becomes someone else as the bad guy and the narc becomes the hero not the villain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-27\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2201\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Hand reaching for a bowl of figs.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-4.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-28\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. To Gain Narcissistic Supply<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-29\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I remember listening to a man talk about his three ex-wifes. The strangest thing was, they were all crazy and all of them had taken all his money. The weird thing was I knew this man and his wives. His wives supported him, he never had money. But he wanted sympathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-30\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So why do narcissists lie? To exaggerate their achievements or victimhood. They need the praise or sympathy to know that they are the center of your attention and you should take care of them and their needs. You are now the supply.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-31\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re talking to someone and every story they tell is either they are the greatest or they are the victim every time, it\u2019s a red flag pattern that they are trying to gain new supply through you.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-32\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2202\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person wearing a stylish brown coat.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-5.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-33\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. To Play the Victim or the Hero<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-34\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The narc needs to be the focus, that is where they get their supply\/ They really don\u2019t care if it is sympathy or amazement. They just want the attention. That is how they satisfy their needs and wants.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-35\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist will make themselves out to be misunderstood, mistreated or on the opposite side overly generous. They just want to be your focus.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-36\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you start to hear someone who is using false stories to gain loyalty it is a red flag, you may also see them starting to use triangulation to make sure that you think the story is real. Like just ask so and so he\u2019ll tell you I\u2019m telling the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-37\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The weird one about triangulation, most of the time you will never verify the story with so and so, you assume that since they said you could ask them, it must be true. Try asking so and so about it next time you might find the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-38\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2203\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person illuminated by spotlight in room.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-6.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-39\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. To Gaslight and Confuse<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-40\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When the narcissist repeats the \u201crevised\u201d story aka their lies. They will state the story over and over and over. You are getting annoyed, but if you pay attention, you\u2019ll notice that what they are doing is programming their version of the story to play over the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-41\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overtime when you hear something repeatedly you memorize it. The narcissist is planning on you memorizing their version of the story over the truth where they were in the wrong. By memorizing it you start to forget the real way things happened or what was said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-42\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, victims begin doubting their own memory and judgment, so it\u2019s important to watch for the red flag of the repeated lie causing the confusion. Get it back to reality ASAP.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-43\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2204\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person organizing files on desk\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-7.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-44\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. Because They Feel Entitled to It<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-45\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist feels entitled to anything they feel they want. So the truth and the rules do not apply to them in their mind. I remember my ex always saying he wasn\u2019t the law he was above the law.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-46\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists believe the truth doesn\u2019t apply to them, they live in their own mind and create their own sense of reality where everyone owes them and is forever indebted to them for their greatness. They actually hate themselves and just want everyone else to love them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-47\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They feel justified in taking and never giving, if you watch a narcissist will take and take, and claim to give, but never actually give unless it will bring them praise and notoriety. <\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-48\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2205\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person standing in dimly lit hallway.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-8.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-49\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Types_of_Lies_Narcissists_Commonly_Use\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Types of Lies Narcissists Commonly Use<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-50\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2206\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Two paper boats on calm water.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-10.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-51\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1 White Lies vs. Big Lies<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-52\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The size of the lie can vary. Narcissists will use little white lies or a small manipulation of a detail to see if they can steer things in their direction and stroke their ego. The little lies can go undetected and set almost a formula to take a bunch of small lies to make a big lie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-53\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they use big lies, that is when they are really trying to hide something, whether it\u2019s cheating or financial abuse, they can\u2019t have anyone know what they did so there is no stopping the extent of their lies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-54\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2207\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Calendar, envelope, photo on table.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-11.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-55\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2 Lies by Omission<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-56\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists are strategic about what they don\u2019t say. If they didn\u2019t say it they believe that is technically not a lie. Kind of like they stayed at a hotel last night, but if they don\u2019t tell you someone else was there with them because you didn\u2019t ask that, They think they\u2019re honest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-57\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Withholding key details can be just as damaging as a blatant lie. And sometimes even more damaging, if you have asked about something but left out just one small detail they just got away with whatever they just pulled.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-58\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2208\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person holding a gift box.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-12.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-59\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3 Future Faking<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-60\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The narcissist needs you. You provide them with supply so future faking, promising you are going to get what you want since you always give them what they want. They\u2019ll make it seem like you are asking for something huge, and they just want small things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-61\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem is you give them 3000 small things\/favors and this big promise of theirs never materializes. It might get bigger, but still never materialize. I\u2019m still waiting for a trip to Paris, which I was promised 20+ years ago.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-62\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist uses future faking because they know they are not good enough for how they are getting treated, but they like being treated this way, so as long as you believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you\u2019ll stay on their path.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-63\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2209\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person standing at an open door.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-13.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-64\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Protect_Yourself_from_a_Lying_Narcissist\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Protect Yourself from a Lying Narcissist<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-65\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2210\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Business meeting in a modern caf\u00e9.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-14.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-66\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1 Trust Patterns, Not Words<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-67\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch the narcissist behavior over time, not the words coming out of their mouth. If you are suspicious of lying, stop trusting words and start making your decisions based on their actions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-68\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just because the narc is dumping on the charm does not make the lies any more true. You can\u2019t wrap lies in charm and expect it to end up being good, it\u2019s good for the minute with the charm, but the lie is still there and in the long term what will damage you.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-69\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2211\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Notebook, phone, coffee, minimal workspace\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-15.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-70\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2 Document Important Interactions<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-71\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are co-parenting this is extremely important. Your child could be at stake. I know I was always told if I left it would not be with my child, and children are not developed enough to understand that a parent can manipulate them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-72\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a workplace situation is another time when documentation is huge,\u00a0 do you really want to give other people credit for your work and watch them climb the success ladder on your work. Keep track of everything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-73\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember that anything verbally can be manipulated or lied about. Keep communication and agreements in text\/emails\/sandstone I don\u2019t care as long as it is in a written printable non deniable form. They can\u2019t argue with evidence.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-74\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2212\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Casual indoor conversation between two people.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-16.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-75\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3 Avoid Engaging in Defensiveness or Debates<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-76\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are reading this article called Why do narcissists lie, you\u2019ve expended your energy enough, don\u2019t waste your time trying to get them to admit it. All that is going to do is bring you right back to re-read this article and start over. Just let them lie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-77\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your defense now is boundaries, staying calm and disengage as much as possible. If you do have to engage, keep it documented. Don\u2019t let them use their lies to regain control of you or maintain control. Know the truth and trust your instincts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-78\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2213\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person standing in a scenic landscape.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-17.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 data-rm-block-id=\"block-79\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4 Strengthen Your Self-Trust\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-80\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The biggest thing to take away from why do narcissists lie isn\u2019t that they lie, it&#8217;s that you know your reality, which is what you need to believe in. No matter what the narc\u2019s reason for the lie. Believe your truth and don\u2019t let them hijack your reality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-81\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Surround yourself with your tribe, others that are supportive and understand what you\u2019ve been through. You are going to need validation and the best validation you can ask for is from someone who has been through the same hell you are leaving.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 data-rm-block-id=\"block-82\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2214\" src=\"http:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19-1024x765.png\" alt=\"Person standing on a misty path\" width=\"1024\" height=\"765\" srcset=\"https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19-150x112.png 150w, https:\/\/themarymcconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/generated-image-2026-02-05-19.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/h2>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-83\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissist lie for any reason that protects them and their ego, without jeopardizing their supply chain.Keep in mind when you ask yourself why do narcissists lie? Because they can and we believe them. We need to watch closer to what is said and what is done.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-84\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist has one agenda and that is to protect their fake self confidence. They can not let anyone know how scared and insecure they actually are. And if that facade is in jeopardy, no truth can take on the lies of a narc.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-85\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You didn\u2019t imagine things. The lies they tell are designed to mislead you down that path. Trust your gut, you are not to sensitive and you never imagine the truth, they just would rather you believe their version where they are the hero not the villain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-86\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you recognize these signs or feel trapped in a narcissistic relationship, please know that you&#8217;re not alone \u2013 and it&#8217;s not your fault.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-87\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your healing journey matters, and support is available. Visit themarymcconnell.com for free educational resources, recovery tools, and a community of survivors who understand exactly what you&#8217;re going through.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-88\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For immediate help: \u2022 National Domestic Violence Hotline:<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> | Ca<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-89\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll 1-800-799-7233 \u2022 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 \u2022 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-90\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your voice matters. If you have additional resources that have helped you, please share them in the comments below \u2013 together we can create a network of support for everyone who needs it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-91\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you dealt with a narcissist? Your story could help someone else recognize the signs or feel less alone. Share your experience in the comments if you feel comfortable doing so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-92\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: You deserve love that feels safe, not chaotic. You deserve respect, not manipulation. You deserve healing, and it&#8217;s possible. \ud83d\udc99<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-rm-block-id=\"block-93\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Looking for more guidance on narcissism and recovery from narcissistic abuse? Explore our collection of expert articles on recognizing toxic patterns, healing, and reclaiming your confidence. 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