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Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is not a one or two time oh man they\u2019re a jerk. It\u2019s a pattern of manipulation tactics designed to gain control of a victim.<\/span><\/p>\nThey use this control to feed their needs so that all others can believe they are a flawless grand human of godly status<\/span><\/p>\nThe main traits of a narcissist are a sense of grandiosity, thinking they are better or deserve better than others, a lack of empathy, t<\/span>hey can\u2019t feel bad for others suffering.<\/span><\/p>\nA narcissist has a sense of entitlement; they feel they deserve everything they desire no one else deserves what they want, and at anyone else cost.<\/span><\/p>\nThe strange thing is the emotional display they use to portray these characteristics, yet they are emotionally shallow and stunted internally.<\/span><\/p>\nGuilt is when you feel bad for something you\u2019ve done that hurt someone else.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\nShame is when you are embarrassed for something you\u2019ve done that hurt someone else.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\nThere is a difference so when asking do narcissists feel guilt or remorse? Do they feel guilt or shame? <\/span><\/p>\nAre they more embarrassed of what others think than how their actions affected another being, even someone they claim to have cared about.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Do Narcissists Feel Guilt?\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n(IMAGE)<\/p>\n
Ok so technically can a narcissist feel guilt, yes but it\u2019s usually only when they need the person that they hurt. <\/span><\/p>\nThe guilt they feel is because the person is gone, not because of their actions that caused the separation.<\/span><\/p>\nA narcissist feels they are entitled and grand without a flaw, they do not feel they do any wrong so how can they truly feel guilt. <\/span><\/p>\nThey may demonstrate it, but that is only for show to avoid the shame of being bad in any way, remember they want to appear perfect.<\/span><\/p>\nNormally we all feel adaptive guilt, a guilt for pain we have caused that lets us self-reflect and grow from the experience. <\/span><\/p>\nA narcissist has manipulative guilt, where they feel bad for their loss, but not for their actions, and they do not self reflect or grow.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>7 Hidden Truths About Narcissists and Guilt<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n(IMAGE)<\/p>\n
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Narcissists Feel Shame, Not True Guilt<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nThe feeling of guilt is about how others feel, it does not feel good and it drives you to change a behavior for the better and grow. <\/span><\/p>\nOn the other hand shame is about how something you did made others think about you and that is why you feel bad.<\/span><\/p>\nA narcissist may feel exposed and that others are judging their actions but they do not feel sorry for what they did. They were just filling themselves with their needed supply. <\/span><\/p>\nThey lack accountability so how can they understand the idea of guilt?<\/span><\/p>\nA narcissist has never felt guilt, they have felt entitled, so taking candy from a baby if they wanted it should be ok in their mind, if they wanted it more. <\/span><\/p>\nShame comes about when their image of perfection and flawlessness is met with judgement by another.<\/span><\/p>\n(IMAGE)<\/p>\n
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Any Guilt They Show Is Often Performative<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nGuilt and shame look a lot alike from the outside. So mimicking remorse instead of showing shame really doesn\u2019t look much different.<\/span><\/p>\nExcept the mimic of remorse is only used to be able to regain control, not to learn and grow from the experience.<\/span><\/p>\nWhen someone says \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d there is an emotion behind that statement of true remorse and a desire to not make someone feel that way. <\/span><\/p>\nWhen a narcissist uses it, it becomes a tactic, a 3 word weapon to regain control.<\/span><\/p>\nWhen an apology has add-ons to, I\u2019m sorry look for a fake apology or pity play tactic. Something like I guess I\u2019m just a horrible person, so sorry.<\/span><\/p>\n Or saying I didn\u2019t think it was that big of a deal. Or even shifting the blame. I’m sorry you feel that way about what I did.<\/span><\/p>\nNot one of these is a true apology, a true apology is I\u2019m sorry, no buts or ands about it. Just I\u2019m sorry and work on self reflection and growth.<\/span><\/p>\n(IMAGE)<\/p>\n
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Their Guilt Only Emerges When It Affects Their Image<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nDo narcissists feel guilt when they show it or is it actually just to save their reputation and appearance. <\/span><\/p>\nWith the constant need for admiration and power, a narcissist cannot have anything damage their reputation, so if they have to say sorry to save face, no problem but no feeling.<\/span><\/p>\nWhen a narcissist apologizes it is usually in public or at the moment supply is about to walk away. They do not feel they did anything wrong. <\/span><\/p>\nBut if others think they did something wrong well then yeah all they have to do is say I\u2019m sorry and then add a couple comments.<\/span><\/p>\n(IMAGE)<\/p>\n
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